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    University of California-Berkeley, University of California-Davis, University of California-Santa Barbara, University of California-Los Angeles, University of California-Santa Cruz, California State University-Fullerton, California State University-Long Beach, California State University-Channel Islands, California State University-Chico, California State University-East Bay, California State University-Fresno

    About Me
    I have assisted both high school and junior college students for 30+ years to get into a number of excellent universities. I am an excellent writer and do editorial work for "think" tank firms. I use my editorial skills to assist students with their admissions essays and applications. I have also worked with students on resumes and letters of recommendations.

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    • How do you go about contacting alumni from a school you're interested in?

       

      Every school has alumni organizations that are usually willing and excited to talk to future students. Contact the alumni organizations and ask if there are any members who do "outreach" to future students. If you are interested in joining a sorority or fraternity, there might be alumni members who would also talk to you about the school. You can either contact the school or go to the national organization for references.

    • How do you know if community college is right for you?

       

      Frequently students are not encouraged to check to see if the community college might be the appropriate option for "right now". Parents and educators both might see the community college as only the "fall-back" plan if every other possibility fails.

      I have always told students to investigate all options when making the college decision. When assessing the different options, selection needs to be greatly influenced by achieving the goal of graduation in a reasonable amount of time.

      Three things are important to look at.

      1) Have you made a selection in terms of what you want to pursue?

      2) What is your academic skill level? Are you truly ready to make the leap from a high school program to a challenging university format? If you are academically ready, are you emotionally ready for the challenge?

      3) Can you afford the cost of going to a university?

      1) Frequently students do not have a strong concept or idea of what area they would like to study and wind up changing their majors a number of times while in college. This type of experimentation can be very costly for students and parents both. Junior college is a good place to test the waters and take classes to see what is available in terms of academic pursuits and career options.

      2) If the student's skill level is not where it should be to succeed at the university level, the junior college is the place to build on those skills. Many colleges and universities do provide remediation, but that remediation is costly in both time and dollars. Students might be prepared academically but not emotionally or sufficiently mature to handle the challenges of balancing a college academic life and the newly gained freedoms of the college world.

      3) The financial aspects of college/university are a very important consideration. Frequently colleges will present a financial package to students which includes loans, etc. I have encouraged students to reconsider attending a four-year program if money needs to be borrowed. Save the borrowing for the second half has always been my advice.

    • Does class size matter?

       

      Class size matters depending on what type of student/learner you are. If you are the type of student that enjoys being engaged with the instructor and the other students on a more intimate basis, class size is very important. If knowing and having contact with the instructor is a vital part of your educational experience, class size is important. But if you are a very independent learner and only want a minimum of guidance, class size is not as important. Sometimes students will find that going to a large university with large classes is acceptable because they will be exposed to some of the big "names" and want the prestige of the large university. But I also feel that many if not most students will perform better when they are in a situation where they feel that they have a personal connection with both the instructors and the other students in the classroom. We all need some personal care and should be able to find that connection at even a larger institution. So much of a student's success in the academic world is matching up that student's academic and personal needs with the right institution.

    • What's the best time to visit a college campus?

       

      Visit a college campus when the students are present. If you plan a head, you should be able to have a tour by an attending student. Ask if you can sit in on a couple of the classes in a major that you might be interested in. Also ask to see some of the dorms and residents halls that freshman live in. You might even be able to eat a meal at the dorms.

      Visiting while students are attending can give you a sense of what "a day" on the campus is like.

      If you know someone who is attending the campus, see if you can arrange an over-night visit and attend classes with your friend or relative. Make sure that the visit isn't just on the weekend because I think it is important to see what the campus is like while students are attending classes.

    • When should students start the college search?

       

      Seventh grade is a good age to start, but frequently parents can start talking about college even before. In casual conversations while on a family road-trip as you are driving by a campus, parents can start putting the idea of attending college into their child's awareness. Discussions around the dinner table about "What is college?" Visiting the parents' former university and talking about the experiences are always good ways to introduce the "idea" of attending a college to children.

      I remember we talked frequently at my childhood dinner table about school and the next step. By the time we were in high school there was no question in our minds about college - it became an assumed next step.

    • Who should come with you on college visits?

       

      A parent (if not both) should visit the college with the student. Parents perceptions and opinions are very important. I know that the last couple of years has that "push-pull" dynamic with most teenagers and parents, but in the end parents know their students probably better than anyone. Also, the parents want to feel comfortable when their students are living away from home attending college. Parents will also think of some practical, everyday questions that might not be on the student's mind but will have an affect on how happy he/she will be in the new environment.

    • We don't have time or money to visit some schools I’m really interested in. What can I do?

       

      Most if not all of the schools have information on the web that can answer the questions you might have. Once you have narrowed your choices to two or three schools, I think it is important to visit. I remember a student who was so sure that she wanted to go to University of California in Santa Cruz. When she got her acceptance, she immediately committed herself. In May, she visited the campus for a weekend. Monday morning she was at my door in tears. "I hate it. I'm a city girl. I can't live in the country." UC, Santa Cruz had all that she thought she wanted, but it just wasn't right. It took me a month to

      get her back into one of the other UC campuses that was a better fit to her personality.

      I know that there is an expense involved in visiting. But I have seen too many students make a decision without that visit. It is much more costly to leave the campus in the middle of the semester because the fit was not "right."

    • How can students stand out on their application?

       

      Good grades and test scores, a rigorous academic program, and a full compliment of academic classes during all four years are all necessary to be accepted into a good school.

      A list of a thousand activities will not be helpful. But if you have excelled in some activities, been an officer, or made an important contribution to the school or an organization, that would be worth noting. Also if you have done something for your community (school or neighborhood or town/city) that has had a positive impact and shows your commitment to your community, that would also be worth noting.

      Colleges don't like a list of a thousand things that you have done. They want to see that you have really put in an effort to be helpful and contributing - not just a member - of both you school and community.

    • Can students apply to college online?

       

      Yes, there are a number of colleges that have applications on line. The California State Universities and Universities of California are all online. Most if not all of the community colleges also have online applications. Our local community college will only accept online applications.

      Many of the letters of recommendations are also done online, essays also. But I have also noticed that many of the private schools give students the option of having online and paper/pencil applications. They also ask for mid-year and final reports which have been pen/paper forms.

      Students must remember that they still have to have their transcripts sent to the different colleges. These requests can be made online if you have taken classes at a community college, but the high school requests are usually a form filled out at the registrar's office at the home school.

    • Does it help to include supplemental materials with your application?

       

      Not usually! The colleges/universities will tell you what they want. Make sure you follow through and give them everything they request. Typically "extra stuff" is discarded. My suggestion would be not to send in anything extra. Even when you are writing the essay, you have to stick to the number of words they request. Frequently the extra words are not read or even eliminated.

      If you are applying to a school that requires an interview, that might be the time to have

      extra things with you that you can share at the appropriate time which would probably be close to the end of the interview.

    • How can planning increase a student's chance of getting great teacher recommendations?

       

      I have always asked students to do the following when they need a letter:

      1) Give me two weeks

      2) Write out some important facts about yourself that I can't find on your transcript

      3) Why do you think you will be a good candidate for this particular school?

      4) Tell me something that you have accomplished that shows hard work, determination and the ability to overcome frustration.

      5)Tell me about your future goals and what have you already accomplished.

      6) How do you handle frustration and problems.

      I believe it is important to give the person who is writing your letter more than enough information about you then he/she would need. Also make sure that the information talks about you as a "learner" - more than just gpa, list of classes, etc. That type of information is already on your transcript. I want students to let me know why they would stand out and why they would be successful on the college campus.

    • Can students speed up the recommendation letter process and still get great results?

       

      If the student provides the writer with enough information about himself/herself, there is a better chance that the results will be good. Too often students will ask for a letter and not provide enough information or to whom the letter should be written too. If the request is done at the last minute, make sure a stamped,addressed envelope is provided along with information that will assist the writer in producing a good letter.

    • When should parents begin saving for college?

       

      As soon as possible! Even if you start out small and do it on a regular basis, a small deposit every month could add up to something substantial by the end of the 12th grade. I would also encourage relatives to donate to the college fund rather than giving gifts at Christmas and birthdays. Grandmas and Grandpas, along with all the aunts and uncles. could be a good source of assistance.

      Even if you tell your child that you are putting money into the college fund rather than paying for a birthday party every other year, that would be good for the fund and a good lesson for your child.

    • How do you save money for college?

       

      Like anything else, the best way to save money for college is to start as early as possible.

      I also recommend to students that saving money for college might mean saying "no" to lots of things that you want or want to do. It is amazing how quickly money disappears on incidental expenses that are really not necessary.

      Also start looking for scholarships and awards early in your high school career. There might be an essay contest for $50 or $100 that many students think, "Why waste my time?" The fifties can add up to a substantial amount. I have had students who have gone after the little scholarships to find that they added up to thousands of dollars by the time they graduated. Many students don't apply for the little ones. The competition is frequently not as high for the smaller prizes.

    • Are there ways to waive college application fees?

       

      Yes! If you qualify through the FAFSA, you can get fee waivers from the counseling department at your school. The waivers are necessary for the state schools and universities. You can also submit a letter to the private schools requesting a fee waiver. If you then qualify through the FAFSA, the colleges will waive the fees.

      At the high school where I was a counselor, the students would get fee waivers if they qualified for free and reduced lunches. These waivers were also good for the SAT and ACT testing.

    • What is a 529 plan and how can you start one?

       

      A 529 plan is a savings program started by most colleges and institutions. Go on the web and put in 529 plan to see which colleges are participating. There are a number of college plans that exist where a parent, grandparent, etc. can open up a savings account for the student. There are some fees involved.

    • What is work study?

       

      Work study is usually part of a financial aid package from the college or university. The job is typically on campus and can be worked around the student's schedule.

      Most financial aid packages are a combination of grant money (free money - never has to be paid back), a loan (sometimes both the parents and the students need to take out a loan to pay for this part of the package), and work study.

      The work study positions could be working in the athletic department to working in the bookstore. Typically students get paid minimum wage and work less than twenty hours a week.

    • How can students save money on textbooks?

       

      Unless absolutely necessary, avoid the student bookstores. There are a number of websites where students can purchased both new and used textbooks. The price difference between the websites and the student bookstores are startling. Of course there will be times when the exact edition will not be available on the web, and the purchase will need to be made on the campus.

      When you do buy on line, make sure you have the right edition because some of the editions are updated - but not always. It could be the exact same book but different editions because of the printing.

      Another option is renting books. The community college in my hometown rents the books to the students. The disadvantage is that you have to return the books. For most students this is not an issue because they intend to sell the books back. But if it is something you decide you might want to keep, you can always check with the bookstore to see if you can purchase the book. In most cases, this is an available option.

      Many schools will also have reserved copies in the campus library where students can read the books. But, this is difficult because frequently you cannot take the books out of he library. They might not always be available because other students are using them.

      Textbooks have become very expensive. It is not unusual to pay over $100 for one book.

    • What should students know about credit cards?

       

      AVOID THEM!!!! Students only need one credit card. I would suggest getting a credit card with a low limit on it. With your parents, figure out what you are going to be using your credit card for. Is it going to be for school expenses such as books or socializing???

      I would limit the use of credit cards for necessary expenses. But now, you have to figure out what is necessary. I have had many discussions with students about the fact that getting steaks in your hair is not a necessity and does not affect your learning. Going out for pizza is not a necessity. The list is endless.

      Attending a university with the appropriate "focus" or inappropriate "focus" can greatly affect the monthly balance on your credit card. I have noticed that many students still want to have all the "goodies" that they have had during high school and attend a university away from home. For most families this is a very difficult proposition.

      If finishing college is the goal, the behavior in regards to spending and studying have to be evaluated.

    • How should the college essay tie into the rest of the application?

       

      The essay should not be a repeat of anything that is already in the rest of the application. You don't want to bore the reader with information that is already there. Plus you are wasting a valuable opportunity to be creative and really say something about yourself that the rest of the application does not address.

      Usually the college will give you some guidance with the essay, presenting you with some questions or a quote to inspire you. Think about the essay, write down some ideas, talk to your parents, teachers and friends about the topic, and sleep on it before you start. Give yourself some time to organize and be creative. Make sure you have some one read the essay before it is turned in. You might miss some errors.

      Another thing you might try is reading the essay out loud to yourself and then to friends or family. See how they react to what you have written. Ask for honest critique of what you have presented. Then go back and build on the information they gave you.

    • What makes a great college essay?

       

      A great college essay gives the college an opportunity to see who you really are. Pick a meaningful experience and take the reader through your process of self-discovery. I assisted a student who wrote about her father. A man that she adored but discovered that he was a cocaine addict. She took the reader through the stages of loving, hating, being disappointed, ashamed and finally acceptance, understanding and again loving while "Dad" was going through treatment. She allowed herself to be vulnerable which made the essay dynamite. Another student talked about the struggles of having learning disabilities and the pain that he experienced during his educational career.

      You might think, "I don't have anything like that." All of us have experiences that have impacted our lives. Sit down with your folks and talk about your family and your "growing-up" years. I'm sure you will find something.

      Make sure when you write your essay that you don't just ramble on and on. Follow the five-paragraph or a modified version of that format. You will need a catchy introduction where you pull in your reader, supportive examples, and then a wonderful conclusion where you pull everything together and leave the reader with a smile, a tear, or a wow.

      The essay really gives you an opportunity to be creative. Allow yourself time and don't throw it together right at the end. With all the competition trying to get into the good schools, your essay could make the difference.

    • What are some do's and don'ts for the admissions essay?

       

      Make sure that your essay is grammatically. A poorly written paper with grammar errors is a real "killer". The readers expect the applicant to have a good foundation in writing.

      I believe it is always advisable to have someone re-read and "proof" your writing for you.

      Don't frequently use personal pronouns such as "I" or "you" in your essays. This tends to make the essay boring. Try to use an active voice and respond in a way to catch the attention of your reader. Use examples, write in a format that is descriptive, is logical, and flows.

      Frequently students will write their essays as if it is a history of events in their lives. Pick a couple of incidents, activities, etc. and "tell" how these were meaningful in your life. How did these events help you develop as a student and person. When students merely present a historical list of events, the reader does not get a sense of what type of person he/she is. Don't tell the reader information that can be read on the transcript or on another part of the application.

      Try to allow your personality to shine through your essay. What about you is so interesting and wonderful that the reader would say, "I think I would like to know this person. He/she will add something pretty interesting to our school."

    • What can I do with a major in the arts if I don't get full-time work as a performer /artist ?

       

      A major in the arts can be beneficial in a number of career areas: advertising, community recreation, and school programs with music and drama departments are a few possibilities.

      A masters degree can also be obtained which would make the junior college and college level teaching positions available to the individual. The performing art world provides jobs and careers in not only performing but also as support services for the performers. Frequently, people will work in any aspect of the performing/art industry in order to obtain access to the "opportunity."

      I have also found that people with an art background can go into different aspects of interior design and decorating because the individual has the flair or "eye" for beauty.

    • Any advice for parents on paying for college?

       

      Stay within your means!!! So many times I have heard parents and students say that they deserve to go to the college of their choice because the student has worked so hard. If we all got what we deserved, the world would be a great place to live for everyone. But the reality after graduation is that the bill comes due. If a family is not able to afford the first choice for all four years, maybe the student should look at attending a two-year program and then transferring. From what I have seen over the last fifteen years (with both my children included), not everyone gets done in the past traditional thinking of graduation in four years. Students should still apply to their top choices and then with the family make the decision that is not only right for the student but also the family.

      I have seen students take out huge loans so they can immediately go "away" and come out with pretty hefty payments. I have some younger colleagues who after ten years are still paying off student loans.

      Try to save the student loans for the last two years and graduate school.

      My second bit of advice for parents is to try to be supportive of your child's career choice or major. If it is something that is not within what you think is "reasonable or appropriate", encourage him/her to take some general education classes to explore. General education is a requirement for all degrees and will give the student an opportunity to explore. So many times I've heard, "Well, my parents wanted me to be..."

      We all want the best for our children, but they have to live with their life choices. Try to be open to see their points of view and listen to what they are saying.

    • Do colleges keep parents informed of their child's academic progress?

       

      Colleges are not required to keep parents informed of their child's academic progress. Once students attend a university, college, or even a community college, parents do not have the right to access information about their student. Students may select to give their parents access to this information by giving them the codes needed to access transcripts and any other information.

      I know that in many cases parents are not happy with this because many are financially supporting their children, but the institutions are governed by right to privacy laws that protects the students from anyone having access without their permission.

    • What role should parents play as their children are applying to college?

       

      Parents need to be encouraging and realistic. By encouraging, parents should be open to talk about all options, visit the campuses with your child, help provide access to information, take them to college fairs, talk about career possibilities, etc. This should be open conversations while the student is exploring without "judgment." Frequently, junior college might be an option that a student is considering because he/she might not feel ready to jump into a university, but don't necessarily believe that their parents see the junior college system as an option. All options should be considered. Being realistic is also important. Students need to know how much financial help parents are capable of providing. I've had students who have worked for three years thinking that they were going to going to a particular school only to find out during their senior year that the family's financial situation would not allow such an expense. I believe that parents need to be honest in terms of how much money is there and what are their expectations as parents. Is the student going to need to work? Is there a particular institution that the parents would not support? This is a good opportunity for lots of discussions between parents and their children.

    • What do students need to know about transferring?

       

      The first thing you need to know is what are the requirements of the school you wish to attend. The majority of the state schools prefer that you have a completed associates degree before you make the transfer. I always recommend that students complete their associates degree; that way you have one degree completed. If for some reason you don't complete your bachelors, you will have your A.A. or A.S. When you apply for a job, people are not interested in how many years you have been in college. They want to know what have you accomplished. It's always nice to put down that you have been awarded your degree.

      Also, find out if the college you want to attend will accept all of your classes to complete the general education requirements. There are some state colleges that will accept a transfer agreement stating that the general education classes that you have taken at the junior college will also fulfill the ones at the school you are transferring to.

      Find out what requirements are necessary for your major. Universities and colleges typically will not let you take upper division courses in your major until you have completed the lower division requirements. Some colleges will actually require that you apply not only to the school but also to the major department.

      Make sure you send transcripts from all the community colleges you have attended. Even if you have taken only one class at a community college and the rest at another school, each community college needs to send an official transcript.

      Again, I would recommend visiting to see if the new campus is a good fit for you.

    • Is the disability support services provided in college the same as those in high school?

       

      No they are not. Some of the services are better and some not so. But each college has to have services for students with disabilities. Students have to seek out the services. It is not like high school where students are identified, and then the system makes sure that the services are provided. In the college setting, the student has to be his/her own advocate. Most students should have an active IEP or 504 Plan that started way before entrance into a college/university program.

      I did find that the Missouri State University in Springfield was excellent. My own son has learning disabilities and had an IED (Individual Education Plan) since he was in elementary school. The school administration was very helpful in assisting him in getting what was needed. BUT, I worked very closely with the learning disability lab and staff (of course with my son's permission).

      It is not difficult to get longer time and testing in a quieter environment or modifications made for students who have visual or hearing disabilities. But again, the student has to either be his/her own advocate or have someone who will advocate for him/her.

    • Should students disclose a disability on the admission application?

       

      If there is a direct question asking whether there is a disability or not, the answer is yes.

      If not and there is an opportunity to talk about it, I would do so. I have always believed that being honest about one's learning needs is very important. If the institution can make accommodations to assist the student in being successful, I believe the student should take full advantage of what is available. The college wants all of its students to be successful, which means that the staff needs to know what assistance students will need.

    • How does a student establish college eligibility for disability support services?

       

      If you qualified as a disabled student with a current IEP or 504 Plan, then you would also qualify for college resources. Make sure that your IEP, 504 Plan, and psychological testing that diagnosed your disability is current. Out-of-date testing does not work.

      If you have as ADD diagnosis, make sure that diagnosis is current from either the school district or through a medical doctor or psychiatrist. Then make sure that there are accommodations being made at the high school. If you have never had accommodations made at the school, it is much harder to then request accommodations on the college level.

    • Can I get extra time on the SAT if I have a learning disability?

       

      Yes, you can. BUT, you have to have been provided accommodations before you take the SAT. There has to be a history and a diagnosis of a learning disability. Any accommodation, such as longer time, has to be in place as a regular activity during the school year and not one that materializes because of the SAT.

    • Will the DSS staff have expertise in every student's disability?

       

      Not necessarily, but the staff should have resources available to assist its members to help the incoming students. But again, it is important for the student to know what he/she needs. Students with disabilities need to be pro-active. He/she needs to know what is needed for him/her to be successful. By the time college education is the issue, the student and parents should have a good idea as to the type of accommodations that need to be provided.

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