The hardest thing for well-educated, successful parents to do these days, it seems, is to allow students the freedom to be themselves, to discover their own strengths and interests, and to learn from their mistakes.
In short: Never, ever, ever, say “we” are applying to college, or “our applications.” Never, ever, ever, tell your student that choosing a college is the most important decision she’s ever had to make. You know it’s not true. Never, ever, ever tell your son he needs to find “his passion.” It will come, but maybe not at 17 or 18.
And, most important, tell your child that getting into a college is just the first step: The real value in education is how you take advantage of the opportunities that await you, regardless of the university you attend.
Sound familiar? It’s probably because that’s how your parents treated you. And look how great you turned out!