How do you build a good relationship with your high school guidance counselor?

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How do you build a good relationship with your high school guidance counselor?

Rod Bugarin
Former Admissions Officer Columbia, Brown, and Wesleyan University

How do you build a good relationship with your high school guidance counselor?

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Michelle Aronoff
Guidance Counselor

Make an appointment, we don't bite :)

Building a good relationship with your high school guidance counselor is simple: come to our office and talk to us! It can be about anything, but know that we WANT to know these things about you. We would love to hear about what you enjoy doing, or how you lost your volleyball game or hear you vent about your mom. Whatever is on your mind it is ok if you need a place to vent or want an adult's advice or opinion. Getting to know more about you helps us advise you when it comes to choosing colleges to apply to and the better we know you, the more we can advocate for you in your college recommendation, for scholarships, etc.

Laura O'Brien Gatzionis
Founder Educational Advisory Services

The guidance counselor

First of all, discover which counselor will be responsible for you. You definitely need to visit with your guidance counselor so that when it comes time to write the counselor's letter of recommendation, the counselor actually has something specific to include in that letter. Request an appointment after winter holidays your junior year and then try to visit with the counselor again in the spring to discuss college ideas. Drop by the office to explore the college brochures or reference books that are likely available. Ask the counselor where he went to college or stop in to discuss your extracurricular resume. Greet the counselor in the hallway on the way to class.

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President IVY Counselors Network

start early and learn to work closely

it does require the student to show motivation for college admissions. counselors at prep schools love to work students highly committed. Parents must also play importmant role in in working with the school guidance counselor. if the student does his or her homework and ask questions about the best possible curricumlum, you can get your counselor on your side easily. it is the smartest thing to get people who are in the position to help you on your side and willing to get out his or her way to help you.

Nancy Milne
Owner Milne Collegiate Consulting

Guidance Counselor Knows All

Guidance counselors are in this business because they truly enjoy working with teenagers. Because caseloads can be HUGE, it may be difficult for them to get to know everyone as well as they would like to. You can help by making a habit of stopping by, bringing them up to date on your application status and whatever else is going on in your world. Trust me, they will love to see your face and be happy to help you.

Geoff Broome
Assistant Director of Admissions Widener University

How do you build a good relationship with your high school guidance counselor?

Communication is key. Make sure that you engage your guidance counselor. Talk with them. Set up a meeting just to go over college stuff. Don't make them have to call you down because you haven't met with them yet. Don't just settle for the obligatory once a year meeting. Keep them updated on things that are happening in your life, colleges that you are interested in, and career choices that you are looking at. Counselors are so often buried in paperwork and tasks that they really don't want to do. Brighten their day by talking about colleges and what is going on with you. It truly is the best part of a counselor's day.

Bill Pruden
Head of Upper School, College Counselor Ravenscroft School

How do you build a good relationship with your high school guidance counselor?

Take the time to let your counselor get to know you. Give them all the information you can so that they can present you as fully and as effectively as possible. That will enhance their ability to present you to the schools in the most positive light. Be responsible and responsive each counselor has many students with whom they are working, but if you show your interest and your appreciation and do your part, your counselor will be happy to work hard to help further your dreams. If you give off a sense of entitlement you might discover that you are not entitled to as much as you might think.

Karen Ekman-Baur
Director of College Counseling Leysin American School

How do you build a good relationship with your high school guidance counselor?

The personalities of high school guidance counselors differ, as does the amount of time they have available to provide individual counseling services to their student load, so the following suggestions are general, rather than specific. Figure out what will work best in your situation. 1. Listen carefully and pay attention to the information which your counselor provides in group sessions. If there are any points for which you need more clarification, ask questions at that time. Be attentive, and show that you are interested. 2. Make an appointment to see your guidance counselor to get specific information relative to your future plans and how to best approach your college preparation, college search, application completion, and so on. Depending on the school situation, you might be able to drop in without an appointment, but in many instances, the counselor is working with a large number of students and will not be available for unplanned visits. If you make an appointment, you can, hopefully, be guaranteed of having the counselor's undivided attention for that period of time. 3. Think about what you want from your college experience, be prepared when you have appointments with your guidance counselor, and be open about what your college wants, needs, and expectations are. Don't expect your counselor to be able to read your mind. 4. Be realistic about your own strengths and weaknesses. Discuss them with your counselor and realize that those strengths and weaknesses can and probably will affect the institutions to which it will be appropriate for you to apply. Remember that the goal is to find a college which is a good "fit" for you, and there are undoubtedly many that would meet that criteria. 5. Follow through on suggestions your counselor makes for your college search, preparation, and application processes. Meet deadlines. Don't put the counselor in the position of having to nag you to get things done. 6. Ask for recommendations from your counselor (and teachers) in plenty of time for the recommendations to be effectively written without putting additional stress and time pressures on the people writing them. 7. Be friendly. When you see your counselor in the halls, smile and greet them. 8. Thank your counselor for taking the time to see you and for helping you. Of course, that's his/her job, but it's always a good idea to thank people when they've done something for you.

Reecy Aresty
College Admissions/Financial Aid Expert & Author Payless For College, Inc.

How do you build a good relationship with your high school guidance counselor?

Over time w/o "using" them. You have to nurture the relationship like you would in any situation, and that takes time & planning. Again, my old adage: Plan your work, work your plan. Nobody plans to fail, but too many fail to plan.

Reena Gold Kamins
Founder College, Career & Life, LLC.

How do you build a good relationship with your high school guidance counselor?

Introduce yourself early in your high shool career and check in often. The average counselor in the US has more than 400 students to worry about. And, on average is only able to spend about a half hour with each student. IN FOUR YEARS. Those numbers are absurb. So, if you want her to know who you are when it comes time to submit her letter and to be able to say positive and genuine things about you, make sure you take time to get to know her. Pop in often and update her on what you've accomplished. But, don't be a pest. Be sensitive to her time constraints.