What should parents do during campus visits?
The first no-no on a campus visit is the royal “we.” The student is the one who will be going to the college. Do not say things like, “We just love your school,” “We don’t know what we will major in,” or “We just took our SAT.” The student is the applicant so the student should do the talking and ask the questions. The correct pronoun is “I,” and it comes from the mouth of the student! The second no-no is the parent who speaks and “does” for their student. The student should sign in. The student should introduce her/himself. The student should ask questions.
The third no-no: do not go into the interview with your student! The admission counselor is asking you in to be polite…they really want to speak to your student, not you. The interview is an important factor for your student, especially at the smaller schools. Don’t embarrass your student by going in with them! The fourth no-no: do not complain or whine about the campus, the application, or about the cost! Your job during the visit is to support your student, ask pertinent questions, gather information quietly, and stay in the background. The fifth and most important no-no is: do not sell your student! The campus visit and interview is not the time and place for you to try and get your student admitted.