The idea of travelling through time to give my teenage self advice is a tantalizing concept, yet, for several reasons, I would hesitate to do so at all. This is not because I was an angel, with flawless study habits, quite the opposite. I hesitate because as untraditional as my life has been, it is how it should be for me. What if I could go back, find myself and explain the facts of life, give hints and helpful tips on how to achieve success? Would I, as a robust specimen of teenage angst and rebellion listen to my wisened old self? Possibly, but likely not. Most likely I would have veered further from the reasonable path of practical and successful living, if only to show that I was independent of help, of advice. Still, this is not my true reason for hesitating. This is: Although after dropping out of high school I shunned academics in my early adulthood, I went on to live a fascinating life full of travel, rich with experience, educating myself through reading and exposure. I fear without these experiences my mind would be two dimensional, stuck in an envelope. My misguided past has enriched me.
If I could talk to myself as a high school senior, I would give myself several bits of advice. One of the first things I would tell myself is to fully concentrate on my studies. I would tell myself Dad was right, average is not good enough. Always aim high. I would also tell myself to forego immediately entering a 4-year college and start with community college and pay less for the main courses until I fully determine what I want to major in while I continue to discover my interests and abilities. Lastly, I would tell myself to continue pushing toward my bachelors even once I'd received my Asociates degree. Returning to college at 30 years old amid a sea of 20 year olds is not easy and is even harder as a wife with a house. College is hard but you make the desicions that can make it tougher. Lastly I would tell myself to remember to enjoy life and to remember not to rush life. Despite all the challenges, enjoy the best each day brings because you never know when you're going to miss certain people and things.
The advice that I would give myself if I could go back and talk to myself as a high school senior would be to never give up. During high school, I had moments where I would self doubt myself. I did not have the confidence to believe in myself sometimes. I did not think my hard work was going to pay off and I strived hard to put in 200 percent effort in my academics. I had come up against a challenge- I was the second physically disabled person in my graduating class. Without talking to me, people saw my disability first and realizing that, hurt. With that in mind, I knew I had to work twice as hard than my abled-bodied peers. There was a sense of doubt, but I realized just because I was different I should not let that stop me from achieving my goals. From that moment of realization I did not give up on myself because as soon as I began to give up I would be back where I started.
If I could go back in time and talk to myself as a high school senior and knowing about college life, there would be a few words of advice I would give to myself. I would tell myself to wtach out in many different ways. Not everyone is your friend. People will take advantage of you any way they can and your friends that have known you forever are probably not at the school, so you have to watch out for that. To watch out for your weight. You can gain weight like crazy if you don't watchyour diet and exercise. And, to be careful of your academics. Your grades can slip right through your finger tips if you don't watch them. You can have a social life, but that doesn't mean slacking in class. If you miss class too much, that can also be a sign that you need to focus more on school or that college isn't the right fit for you.
I feel that any student who has received even a minimal amount of assistance in school should seek a College that offers alot of suport for College years as well. It is my experience that this ongoing assistance when available, is the best way to find your way to the degree or major you choose. Many school offer this however Mitchell College and only one other in the state of CT offer this to a great degree. I admit that I used the LRC program for my first three years at Mitchell College. I feel it has helped me to mlove on to a University for a Masters Degree. Finding a College that is smaller in size was helpful for me, and class size is smaller. This is better for all students in my opinion. You do not have to have a learning dissibility to benefit from smaller class size.
If I could go back in time, I would tell myself to really take the time and research everything. This is very important to do even though it maybe stressful and at times I may want to give up and just settle. When this happens I need to tell myself it will be worth it in the end to be somewhere that I love and that I am happy at. When I am happy I know that I can succeed. Also, I have to be outgoing that is the only way to meet people and make friends. When I meet people I need to try to be a good judge of character and pick postive people to surround myself with. Doing this will help me make freinds who have the same goals as I do and keep me headed in the right direction. Getting involved is also something that is important to any college experience.
As a Student Ambassador for my school, I see a lot of nervous and college-leery students and parents, unsure just what their future might hold for them. After attending Mitchell for two full years, I can honestly say that one's college experience depends solely on the effort that one puts forth. My motto is this: you get out of it what you put into it. I realized this helpful tidbit after my first semester, as I was miserable. I wasn't part of the "drinking scene" and therefore stayed in my room doing nothing. I was bored, lonely, and unhappy. It wasn't until I got involved on campus, and truly got into the heart of Mitchell did I realize that life wasn't going to come looking for me in my dorm room, I had to go out there and make it happen.
To students and parents I would tel them to take the time to carefully look at as many schools as possible and aply to alot of schools. To make the most of your college experience I advise you to get actively involved in the school/To students I would say to choose a school that you feel like yourself at and not to choose a school based on friends and or relationships. Get involved in clubs and or sports and network with students and falculty. And to parents I would tell them that it's ok to let your child go. Don't be over pertective and trust that you raised them well and that they will be ok on their own. Get involved in your childs education and ask them how they are doing. Attend events such as parents weekened and be supportive.
If i could go back in time and talk to my self as a senior i would tell me self to keep my head up. That college is not that hard and not that much different from high school just you live with the people. Look forwards to doing things on campus and getting involved, try making as many friends as you can and stick to your school work. Be productive and do sports, be yourself dont let anyone tell you that you are not being yourself. BE WHO YOU ARE.
If I was to go back as a senior in high school, I would tell myself to not change anything. I believe my transition into college went well. All the experiences I had as a first year and second year student at Mitchell College only made me what I am today. I have come to terms with all the bad aspects and embraced the good ones. As a third year student, the experiences and struggles I have today will teach me a lesson for the coming years.